持分请教：20个月大的小朋友，上幼儿园时，老是哭，有哪些措施可以减轻分离焦虑？

yxpma

如题，其实，送宝宝上幼儿园纯属无奈之举。因为他奶奶身体不好，每天带，肯定吃不消。所以，只能一周送两天幼儿园。

但是，因为那么大的小孩子，不像那些8个月，10个月的小朋友，送到幼儿园也是傻傻不知道发生什么，就安安静静接受了从家里到幼儿园的环境变化。但是，20个月大的小朋友，一离开奶奶或者妈妈，就哭得不行。以前在一家私立幼儿园的时候，可以连续哭8个小时。现在到了council的幼儿园，哭一个小时，老师就会给我电话，请奶奶接他回家。

我也知道这个是一个过程，很难避免，但是，还是希望能有些方法，让他缓解一些分离焦虑，能够更早适应幼儿园的生活。

请大家赐教！

分分伺候。

leeds_0118

Arrivals and departures can be extremely challenging times for all involved.
If you think your child may be anxious about saying good-bye, please make sure you speak with us about your intentions—if you plan to leave quickly, or prefer to remain for a while, we can help with the transition. Often a quick separation is easiest for the child. Prolonging separation when children are already anxious about saying goodbye can be more stressful for both parents and child. At the same time, some children respond well to time spent sitting quietly with mum and dad before saying good-bye. This can be a tricky balance and we find that children who are pre-occupied with the separation respond most positively to a quick separation. Consistency is important. Stick with the routine that works.
If you would like the opportunity to sit & read a story or play with your child, letting them know that you will be leaving after you have read the story or built a block tower prepares the child for the separation. Acknowledge the emotions that children are feeling. Often we talk about sad emotions as a negative thing. It is ok to be sad, angry or frustrated, & we need to support children to firstly identify the emotions, & then give children strategies to deal with these emotions when they occur. Make sure you always say good-bye to your child. Sneaking off can lead to mistrust & more stress for the child. Be aware of precedents you set if you let your child stay home instead of dealing with the emotions of a difficult separation. We also need to consider changes in the home environment that may lead to challenging separations & be prepared to work through these. Being open with educators provides us with knowledge that enables us to support your family and child. By being positive and not focusing on the anxiety itself, we can implement a plan that leads to positive separations.

rosazheng

我儿子22个月去Childcare的，一周三天，有两天连着。刚开始一周也是哭的稀里哗啦的，不过老师没有马上叫我们接回。我9点多送进去，1点去cc看准备接，结果哭睡着了。我三点再过去，正在吃午饭（哭 不肯吃饭，后来睡着了没吃）。
有一个月吧，我基本都是快十点送进去，三点左右就接回家。慢慢加时间，4小时、5小时慢慢加……差不多三周就适应不哭了！
不过我们哥哥也在一个cc里。

1，我感觉就是慢慢加，一直哭的话， 可以两个小时、三个小时慢慢加看看。一哭就接的话，感觉孩子不容易适应呢！我感觉最好不要哭的时候接，就像不给糖吃，但他一哭就给糖吃，下次要糖不给还是哭。只能让他慢慢适应了。20个月，可以听懂一些道理了其实。
2，第一天就半个小时，跟孩子说奶奶去买个菜或者干嘛，马上回来接你，然后半小时就回来。慢慢加……孩子知道你忙，但一忙完就会回来接，这样会不会好些

eastlife

不上CC的日子，楼主或者奶奶看能不能抽时间带娃去CC呆半小时 stay and play。我儿子开始CC前，我带他去玩了5,6次，等到真正开始的时候，他已经蛮习惯了，也不担心妈妈不在了

greatcjz

我家两个娃，因为搬家，我前前后后看过6，7家CC。孩子不能settle，可能跟孩子本身的性格有关，但老师也有很大的关系。我 家这边council我也去过，最后没选是因为我觉得老师都特别严肃死板，其实一些私立的CC里的人老师会更热情。

yanjenny1

有没有平时她喜欢的安抚物给带上，哭的时候能缓解情绪！我家喜欢jelly cat bunny,几乎每天CC都带着去！这个兔子从她自己睡一个房间开始就陪伴着她，一直到现在每晚还抱着一起睡的！